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Physical Attraction - 2/12/2010 11:25:26 AM   
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What turns you off physically from a man.
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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/12/2010 12:01:25 PM   
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Little or no personal hygiene.

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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/12/2010 12:04:18 PM   
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Nope, not doing this one. I thought it was wrong when the guys did it, and it would be hypocritical and just as wrong for me to do it here.

I will say this: I have preferences, but they are just that, preferences.

The only real deal-breakers for me would be behavioral/character issues.

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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/12/2010 12:17:26 PM   
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I have to agree that hygiene is a biggie. The good thing is that it can be addressed if brought up in a loving way.
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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/12/2010 1:35:52 PM   
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quote:

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Nope, not doing this one. I thought it was wrong when the guys did it, and it would be hypocritical and just as wrong for me to do it here.

I will say this: I have preferences, but they are just that, preferences.

The only real deal-breakers for me would be behavioral/character issues.

Agreed.

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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/12/2010 2:16:41 PM   
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I'll play. In no particular order:

Physical turn-offs:

Morbid obesity
Smoking
Breath that will melt plastic
Rotten teeth
Excessive B.O. / consistently bad hygiene

Personality turn-offs:

Inability to admit when he's wrong / thinks he's always right
Inconsiderate
Unfaithful / wandering eyes
Regularly has trouble keeping his commitments/promises
Violent - physically, mentally, emotionally, sexually, etc. abusive
A total neat-freak (since he'd be totally incompatible with me, LOL!)

I'd probably come up with more, but you get the general idea.

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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/12/2010 2:51:17 PM   
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obesity
lack of hygiene
poor/inappropriate taste in clothing....as in really no desire to look presentable...you know, ripped/torn jeans, clothes that are too small, or just hideous looking...
bad breath, bad body odour
combed over hair...
big belly

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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/12/2010 3:01:52 PM   
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Ooo, I didn't think of a comb-over - perhaps because men with comb-overs aren't in my ideal dating age range? (I don't see any men in their 30's and 40's with those hideous things.)

Of course, I'm married, so NO men are in my ideal dating age range, LOL!

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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/12/2010 4:00:56 PM   
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I"ve read the guys version (yes, I do sometimes read the Men Only threads) and I appreciate the honesty.

Basically I agree with the other gals. If a guy isn't taking care of himself physically then I can assume he wouldn't be taking care of other either. Not that a man has to be all muscles and GQ, but if he is a slob and unhealthy...well you get the drift.

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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/12/2010 4:15:21 PM   
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Poor hygiene
Weight extremes (extremely thin or obese)
Shorter than me (which is very rare, considering my height)
Overly-primped
Generally disheveled or unkempt appearance
Also, I personally don't care for lots jewelry, peircings, or tatoos
Not a big fan of the comb-over or the mullet
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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/12/2010 5:06:31 PM  1 votes
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Ya know... it really varies from man to man, and I don't want to focus on the negative. I don't see of what edification that would be to anyone.

I would rather talk about the things I like, find attractive, find praiseworthy about men. When a thread is started about that, I'll participate.

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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/12/2010 5:26:47 PM   
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quote:

The only real deal-breakers for me would be behavioral/character issues.


Same here. And I would say lack of hygiene would be included in that.

Although, there are some "vibes" that put me off. Not any thing really to do with physical characteristics.

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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/12/2010 6:03:02 PM   
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Yes, things like hygiene, bad teeth, B.O., etc are behavioral issues to me. So is obesity to some extent. I'm married, too, so I won't be dating anyone, but when I was, I looked more at the heart than the outside package. I dated men who had bellies, were bald/balding, some were short. Didn't matter to me.

When I did find my forever sweetie, he was tall, redheaded (which I love), and slender. But he didn't have to be. All he had to be was a man after God's heart. All the rest is just gravy.

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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/12/2010 9:00:31 PM   
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I was happy to talk and maybe become friends (and even date) guys who at the minimum were clean and neat.

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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/12/2010 9:04:05 PM   
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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/13/2010 9:27:40 AM   
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quote:

Although, there are some "vibes" that put me off. Not any thing really to do with physical characteristics.


I should clarify. Even though they aren't physical charictaristics, certain things do make a man physically unattractive in my eyes even though in another circumstance I might find him handsome.

For instance, male models. My brother is all into men's style and fashion. He looks fine. But some of the clothing ads he peruses--to me those men are not in the least bit handsome or hot. Not even good-looking. Kind of scary. It's the presentation and attitude that is off-putting, and makes their physical attributes totally meaningless. Did Leo DiCaprio used to be handsome? I've seen several picture of him lately and what comes across now is guy-who-stays-up-to-all-hours-partying-boozing-and-womanizing. Sleazy, sloppy, hungover. I don't know if that's really what he does or if he just likes to look that way, but either way, it's totally offputting and unattractive.

This is all moot for me because I'm married. Just think the way we humans percieve each other and what affects our perceptions is an interesting subject.

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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/13/2010 10:29:53 AM   
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Disclaimer: Married woman speaking in hypothetical terms.

I agree with most other posters that morbid obesity or BO/bad breath are turnoffs. However, if a man seems otherwise well-kept but has a mild odd odor or is overweight, and I like him, I'd reserve judgement, as some necessary medications can cause that.
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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/13/2010 11:27:31 AM   
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Marriage will do odd things to a woman, though. There are certain things that m'love looks really good in, dare i say hot, for instance nice new jeans. But like all men he also has his favorite "ugly" shirt. He wears one for a pajama top. On a stranger I would think he was sloppy but on m'love is has a certain charm of a man comfortable at home.

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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/13/2010 3:33:48 PM   
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Marriage will do odd things to a woman, though.


This is a good point. I used to be really freaked by hairy backs. No good reason, just taste.

And then God gave me a wonderful husband... who has a hairy back. Now that I think about it, it doesn't bother me in the least. He's a wonderful man and treats me like a queen. What hairy back?

Guys, your heart of kindness and giving is going to cover for a lot! Be encouraged!

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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/13/2010 11:31:59 PM   
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The only thing that is really repellant physically to me is a dirty stinky guy, unless he has just been mowing the lawn or working outside or something and is heading to the shower.

But we were watching the Olympics, and cheering on that little Ohno fella, and all I could think was "Shave that stupid patch off your chin! It ruins your whole face!"

Ummm..sorry for the outburst.

I was pretty easy to please when I was single, as far as looks and physical characteristics. It was personality and character issues that got to me in a bad way.

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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/13/2010 11:45:31 PM   
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I was pretty easy to please when I was single, as far as looks and physical characteristics. It was personality and character issues that got to me in a bad way.


I'm single and ^^^ pretty much sums up how I feel about it.

Don't get me wrong. . . I want there to be physical attraction, but that could mean a variety of different things. There's no one type or physical trait that guarantees that attraction for me.

But if a guy lacks integrity or the desire/ability to support a family or is arrogant, it's all over. I'd be moving on. . .
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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/14/2010 12:13:17 AM   
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Arrogance doesn't bother me a whole lot, if there is something to back it up

I married a PhD. His brother and sister-in-law are also PhDs. I think I know everything, so I fit in just fine

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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/14/2010 4:37:08 PM   
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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/15/2010 12:14:19 PM   
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The only thing that is really repellant physically to me is a dirty stinky guy, unless he has just been mowing the lawn or working outside or something and is heading to the shower.

But we were watching the Olympics, and cheering on that little Ohno fella, and all I could think was "Shave that stupid patch off your chin! It ruins your whole face!"

Ummm..sorry for the outburst.

I was pretty easy to please when I was single, as far as looks and physical characteristics. It was personality and character issues that got to me in a bad way.
I was looking for the article for a link--
Athletes are very superstitious, and Apollo wears his "soul patch" as a part of his training and racing process.

I saw him in NYC, after his "Dancing With the Stars" win, without the patch--very easy on the eyes.

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RE: Physical Attraction - 2/15/2010 12:55:32 PM   
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very easy on the eyes.


I can imagine!

I hadn't considered the "lucky patch" aspect.

I also couldn't figure out why young men were shaving their heads until my nephew did it and I said "Oh! Why did you get rid of your hair?" It had been a wonderful mass of blonde curls. And he stuck his head under my nose and said "Look close."

His hairline had receded to the liddle of his head...in about six months.

Now when I see a shaven-headed young man, I assume that is why.

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