My heart is mine until you you give me a ring and a date
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My heart is mine until you you give me a ring and a date - 6/6/2010 2:57:14 PM
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Prairiehiker
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Save your precious heart for the guy who takes the time to get to know you, has dreams that fit with God's plans for him (and you), and has let the relationship grow to the point you both know this is God's will and he's given you a ring and a date. THEN give your heart to him
This was a quote from the relationship forum.
My question is, would you guys propose marriage to a woman who hasn't given you her heart? Someone who hasn't allowed herself to be vulnerable to you and has her wall constantly up to protect herself from getting hurt. Would you consider marriage with someone who will not be romantically involved with you until you've given her a ring and a date?
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RE: My heart is mine until you you give me a ring and a... - 6/6/2010 5:42:14 PM
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Save your precious heart for the guy who takes the time to get to know you, has dreams that fit with God's plans for him (and you), and has let the relationship grow to the point you both know this is God's will and he's given you a ring and a date. THEN give your heart to him
This was a quote from the relationship forum.
My question is, would you guys propose marriage to a woman who hasn't given you her heart? Someone who hasn't allowed herself to be vulnerable to you and has her wall constantly up to protect herself from getting hurt. Would you consider marriage with someone who will not be romantically involved with you until you've given her a ring and a date?
No. I don't know where people come up with this stuff, but there are some wacky ideas on dating & relationships floating around here.
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RE: My heart is mine until you you give me a ring and a... - 6/6/2010 7:27:34 PM
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nuclear_sidewalk
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romantically involved
I think it really depends what this phrase means. IMO, it's ALWAYS better to hold back, because the world does nothing but push us to go too far, too fast, etc.
I'm all about guarding my heart, but you have to be open and vulnerable at some point to really let them know who you are. Honestly, though, I think the quote person sounds well-intentioned and might just be misunderstood in this instance.
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RE: My heart is mine until you you give me a ring and a... - 6/6/2010 9:36:16 PM
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My question is, would you guys propose marriage to a woman who hasn't given you her heart? Someone who hasn't allowed herself to be vulnerable to you and has her wall constantly up to protect herself from getting hurt. Would you consider marriage with someone who will not be romantically involved with you until you've given her a ring and a date?
Short answer? No.
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RE: My heart is mine until you you give me a ring and a... - 6/7/2010 9:54:00 AM
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Save your precious heart for the guy who takes the time to get to know you, has dreams that fit with God's plans for him (and you), and has let the relationship grow to the point you both know this is God's will and he's given you a ring and a date. THEN give your heart to him
This was a quote from the relationship forum.
My question is, would you guys propose marriage to a woman who hasn't given you her heart? Someone who hasn't allowed herself to be vulnerable to you and has her wall constantly up to protect herself from getting hurt. Would you consider marriage with someone who will not be romantically involved with you until you've given her a ring and a date?
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RE: My heart is mine until you you give me a ring and a... - 6/7/2010 1:41:58 PM
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No.
I'd see that as unwise. That way of thinking is probably trying to counter the my-heart-is-mine-until-you-give-me-a-date-and-after-the-second-date-my-body-is-yours-too mentality that is unfortunately prevalent even amongst Christians. Yes, it is good to be wise about giving your heart (for women and men) but waiting until after the proposal is too late.
What I'd like to know is how can a woman be sure she's safe giving her heart after the ring and the date. Wouldn't it be safer to wait until after the marriage has been consummated? What if the guy waited 'till after the proposal too? Would that be appropriate?
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RE: My heart is mine until you you give me a ring and a... - 6/7/2010 8:48:17 PM
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makarizo
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I love your questions ph.
this one didn't take much thought, ...... no
that question sounds a little backwards.
if romantically involved means sex or something of that nature, ... that is not a premarital option anyway.
when there are walls, and special booby traps, I think some healing needs to occur, in fact it isn't a good idea to get too involved in a relationship when there are problems from the past lingering around.
a ring is not a heart purchaser, it can't buy love, and it can't buy trust or respect. and if I wanted to manipulate someone into it, I would guess buying a ring might do the trick.
..... it will be all about. "the" communication
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RE: My heart is mine until you you give me a ring and a... - 6/7/2010 10:44:02 PM
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Thank you for all your responses. At times, the advice that people give is usually based on their experiences. And though they mean well, I think not much thought were given when some advice is given.
For me, honestly, the regrets I have in this life is that I don't take much risks in relationships. I regret not loving someone than actually getting semi involved and getting hurt in the process.
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RE: My heart is mine until you you give me a ring and a... - 6/7/2010 11:19:26 PM
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"The only thing we have to fear is fear it'self - nameless, unreasoning, unjustified, terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance." - FDR 1933.
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Thank you for all your responses. At times, the advice that people give is usually based on their experiences. And though they mean well, I think not much thought were given when some advice is given.
For me, honestly, the regrets I have in this life is that I don't take much risks in relationships. I regret not loving someone than actually getting semi involved and getting hurt in the process.
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RE: My heart is mine until you you give me a ring and a... - 6/8/2010 8:28:24 AM
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My question is, would you guys propose marriage to a woman who hasn't given you her heart? No. I could have done this already by now (at least once) but I don't want to be married only so I can say I'm married...that's not the point at all.
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RE: My heart is mine until you you give me a ring and a... - 6/11/2010 1:54:42 PM
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Hello Prairiehiker
Okay, lets' take a different twist here. Believers who are free in Christ voluntarily give their hearts to each other. Now there are different expression of that. Surely a romantic relationship is a different one that between two Christians friends. But there should be no reservations on giving one's heart to another one. I've always felt that when the Lord puts a man and woman together, they know it. Things like a ring, a date and a wedding are simply completions of that knowledge.
Am I making any sense here? I'm trying to say that if a man and a woman each give their heart to the Lord, they won't have such reservations like, "Well if he does this, then I'll do that." Entrusting one's heart to another should be decided by the Lord. That cannot be safely done on a human ability level.
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RE: My heart is mine until you you give me a ring and a... - 6/23/2010 5:39:20 PM
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mec
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women should guard their heart,. saying that, she should start to trust him and be able to give him her heart, when she feels it appropriate. Goes for guys as well. But this is a step which must be taken before marriage, should be at least looked at when dating.
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RE: My heart is mine until you you give me a ring and a... - 7/16/2010 12:58:52 PM
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buckifn
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No. If she is afraid to commit she is not ready for marriage.
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