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what turns you off women? - 6/18/2010 10:47:29 PM
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mariamaria
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we have had this question put to us on the ask women questions board so I thought I would put this to you men too.
what turns you off women?
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RE: what turns you off women? - 6/18/2010 11:46:45 PM
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Doctrinor
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When ladies try to overpower other guys on a individual or personal basis or try to dominate though I know not all try to do these things thankfully.But I add that women know how to create beauty really well --a plus big time.I like female friends when I am near any .If I ever do marry I'd hope i get a caring ,sweet understanding lady if that's not being too frank..I know people can be so imperfect too.I try to be a 'gentle' guy and considerate..I added extra info so my post makes extra sense.
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RE: what turns you off women? - 6/19/2010 9:10:25 PM
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makarizo
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there are actually a bunch. but i can tell you that most of it stems from watching my mom and dad and how unbelievably unhappily married they were.
And it can vary from woman to woman.
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RE: what turns you off women? - 6/20/2010 12:07:36 AM
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If they are loud or attention seeking, or if i get the impression they enjoy male attention while i am with them then that is a definite turn off. One lady was drilling me about my work and past and thought i was being interviewed. It had more to do with timing as it was maybe the 2nd and last date.
I did go through the women's section on this and know i would flunk out with a lot there even if it was age appropriate and that is fine. Although i do not care for sports all that much even though was good at baseball in my younger days. My impression being women go for alpha male types even though they say they want sensitive males etc. It's like sitting in a class listening to the cheerleader say she likes sensitivity in men, yet was dating the Captain of the Football team who was anything but. More of a brute and a bully type but perhaps she saw something in him everybody else didn't. 
I know a lot of guys who have problems with women and money but that goes both ways. Women who spend money needlessly. Maybe high maintenance types. Drama queens or overly sensitive types. I found one woman going through my sock and under ware drawer one time? So weird behavior is definitely a turn off.
There was a lady i worked with i really liked even though she was an unbeliever. We went out to dinner and she picked at her food which has always been a turn off. Why spend all the money at a good restaurant if she is not going to eat? Perhaps an ice cream at Dairy Queen will suffice.
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RE: what turns you off women? - 6/20/2010 1:14:22 AM
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hdsnprry
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I would have to say smoking is a huge turn off, drama queens, and women who are afraid to spend one minute of there life alone.....
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RE: what turns you off women? - 6/20/2010 4:55:03 AM
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I did go through the women's section on this and know i would flunk out with a lot there even if it was age appropriate and that is fine. Although i do not care for sports all that much even though was good at baseball in my younger days. My impression being women go for alpha male types even though they say they want sensitive males etc. It's like sitting in a class listening to the cheerleader say she likes sensitivity in men, yet was dating the Captain of the Football team who was anything but. More of a brute and a bully type but perhaps she saw something in him everybody else didn't.
Most women are attracted to men who show power for lack of a better term. They want men to take the initiative and show that they are confident and straight forward. Truth be told, most of us "sensitive" men tend to lack the former. KWIM?
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RE: what turns you off women? - 6/20/2010 10:14:54 AM
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When women are interested in a man who will "fix" them. In other words, their relationship with Christ, emotional stability, and overall life course are contingent on you being Mr. Perfect. When you falter, they're not leaning on God... and do a 180 with their life. Guys do the same thing sometimes, I suppose, assuming marrying a good girl will fix them.
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RE: what turns you off women? - 6/20/2010 10:17:58 PM
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yeah, drama queens, mooches and constant complaining about ex-boyfriends
< Message edited by Silas_Barnaby -- 6/20/2010 10:50:25 PM >
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RE: what turns you off women? - 6/21/2010 11:27:18 AM
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1) Lack of integrity. When a woman says she is Godly, but then flippantly and continually justifies her un-biblical actions in the little areas. Like dismissing laws because they are not convenient to obey, or cheats on her taxes because she does not think the government deserves the money.
2) Self-centered. When a woman has to have everything (and everyone) cater to her likings in life. Often plays out as controlling.
3) A gossip.
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RE: what turns you off women? - 6/23/2010 5:29:11 PM
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mec
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real easy:
too much makeup, snobbish/up tight personality (snooty), when they "show off" in clothing, (but theres not a fine line to what that is)
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RE: what turns you off women? - 7/1/2010 5:41:28 PM
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what turns you off women?
Raspy smokers voice, rotten teeth, spandex or cheap warm up suits, Sponge Bob tank top 2 sizes too small, dunlap belly with pants 2 sizes too small, tramp stamp tattoos, belly button piercings, nose or lip piercings, gauges in earlobes, and last but not least....
ordering a salad and diet coke for diner trying to act petite when you can clearly hear the belly is rumbling GIVE ME STEAK!!
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RE: what turns you off women? - 7/1/2010 7:41:48 PM
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Hello maria
I suppose there are several things that turn me off with some women. First, there is the strong super woman. She is the boss of everything around her. The entire world has to obey her. Life is all about her.
Second, I can't stand a woman that talks constantly and never says anything. She chatters on incessantly and has no clue that her "motor mouth" compulsive behavior bothers everyone.
Third, I get turned off by the woman who is over stylish. She has to make up her face even if she's going to McDonald's. Her stressing of outer adornment supersedes everything about life. She us surface but can be fully tainted on the inside.
It may seem like I have a vendetta against women. But I think they are basically fascinating creatures that make life interesting. I used to be in the military. When you went to the movie, there were only a few women in the midst of a hundred guys - drab. When I got out, I stood in a public place like a mall and beheld the color that women add to humanity. I've never gotten over it.
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RE: what turns you off women? - 7/2/2010 11:58:33 AM
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makarizo
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a new turn off i just discovered last week. we shall call it deal breaker # 643. her place for dinner.... non stop (almost pacing) pragmatic busy body (maybe out of nervousness) constant picking up, cleaning this, walk across the room to do that, check this thing, move that thing. adjust the chair over there. ... it wasn't the worst part of the night, but everything after that didn't really matter......... a little ironic.... like the switch was just turned to the off position.
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RE: what turns you off women? - 7/3/2010 1:33:14 PM
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Several things:
Expecting too much. Many women ask for a flawless exemplar of virtue and purity. These are all things to strive for. Sadly, I have a past, and God has brought me out of a lot. So even tho' I am standing, I take heed, and I remember but for the grace of God. I cannot thump my chest and say "I'm all that and a bag of chips". I am very gunshy as a result.
Most Christian women in America, see a guy with a past and run. Which is why I will probably go overseas. But thats another issue.
If I ever have a relationship, my lady will be the only one I will look at, the only one I would want to hug-no flirty stuff with other gals, even when single.
I intend to work, cook, do laundry, cut the lawn and let her know how important she is.
Materialistic to nausea Having things is OK. But I hear many Christian woman sound no different from their narcissitic secular counterparts. The talk is all jewlery, pampering, vegas, reality shows, gossp
and yes, men can do the same with TV, sports, bigger and better etc
Tattoos and piercings-I really dont like tramp stamps, but a tattoo or a piercing can be done in a moment of oops, and then thats it. But overall I have no problem with them as long as they aren't grotesque or lewd.
Women who get offended if you are interested.....now that is truly stupid. If I ask you out, and you say no, I am cool with that, its OK. I wont bug you again, I respect your answer. If you are playing "hard to get", well thats a game, and I do not trust anybody who is willing to play games like that.
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RE: what turns you off women? - 7/5/2010 2:37:15 AM
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I will say that mine are guidelines, not hard set rules, What turns me off of one person may endear me to another because of personality overlaps.
1) There is a difference between being a bit more social after a drink or two and being wild. I don't mind excessive giggling at jokes, and pranks, I mind it when she cannot tell that her voice can be heard above an airplane engine.(again, it differs between people, and most can't see they do it without others telling them)
2) Going on and on about the same subject. I have friends who I have had to stop calling and talking to on a regular basis, because the same 3 excuses come out every time. If you want me to know that you had a bad relationship, tell me. Repeat it a few times if need be, but it doesn't need to be your focus.
A quote comes to mind that I will re-purpose. Do you define yourself on one thing? Are you what you wear? what you eat? what computer you use? what brand you drink? where you shop? or are you the culmination of all of that, AND one of God's children.
While I understand that we are all children of God, and that He is our main focus, too many people see that as the ONLY focus for everything. The Lord should be on your mind, but do you need to say a prayer before you choose what to cook for dinner? No, because he does not need to direct your life in that way. It may be His will that you stray from certain foods, but it is not His will that He micromanages your every move.
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, I would say a lack of basic hygiene would turn me off. Though I would not judge a person's character based on hygiene, I would find it unattractive for romantic purposes if someone failed to maintain decent hygiene in their lives. 
(Most other things seem more like tastes or preferences to me, so may not be as useful on a general level.)
